It’s still January and we are continually setting down the new frameworks that we intend to follow for the new year. We have promised ourselves to release the old things and people who no longer benefit us. Parting with material things is difficult enough but parting ways with people we have known is even harder.
Just like a worn-out pair of shoes, those relationships are no longer comfortable and in fact they may simply hurt. If we keep wearing them, we will find ourselves winching from the pain; so, we eventually must let them go before we do more damage to our feet.
Last Sunday, Carol Burnett, the comedienne, received a special Golden Globe for the many years that she brought so much laughter to her viewers. She closed her weekly show with a song that said, “I’m So Glad We Had This Time Together.” Then she would pull on one of her earlobes as if to seal the deal. We can use her lyrics as we give thanks for those that we have once known.
As we clean out our lives, we can remember the hours of deep conversations and moments of hearty laughter that we have shared. Surely, we have been enriched from the encounters and for that we should be grateful. Our fellowshipping may have stretched out over several years or it may have been short and sweet. Yet, we know when it is time to move on.
Children are weaned from their mothers so that they can advance to the next stage of growth and we adults must do the same thing. If we try to hold on to that which we’ve outgrown, pain is guaranteed. So, we unfurl our grasp and grip on people, open up our hands and simply let go as we watch the parting shadows exit stage left.
There may a tear in the corner of our eyes but if we are honestly in touch with our real feelings, we will slowly smile. In time, precious memories will flow to the top like marshmallows on a cup of hot chocolate and all the bitterness will remain at the bottom!
Lynn M. January 12, 2019