Monthly Archives: September 2019

Resilience

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What is resilience?  Think of a time when you knew you were resilient.  Did you fall apart and wonder if you could go on, yet later found yourself back in the game?  A host of debaters was recently asked to share one of their resilient moments. Some answers were clear and profound while others became lost somewhere in the middle. Reliving crises can make you veer off course.

When the onslaughts of life have taken their tolls on your mind, body and soul, it is best to simply halt and retreat.  If possible, take a self-prescribed reprieve from it all.  You can announce your own time-out and step out of the path of the fiery darts.

You may have to hunker down and rest on your laurels for a while.  The universe knows how to bring you back into alignment with the natural order of things.  One sage said, “It did not get that way overnight and it possibly will not straighten out overnight.”  It is a process.

So, during your down time, become still and wait.  Wait until you can think clearly.  Remain calm by reading, walking, sitting in the silence, listening to inspiring music and podcasts of experts who offer you hope and encouragement.

Stay busy and let the sizzle of the fires of chastisement simmer down and give them time to completely fizzle out.  Wait in secure spaces while the angry birds fly overhead searching for something to devour.  Yes, wait.  Wait until the coast is clear.

Do your own inner work by emptying your mental vessels of anguish, bitterness and disappointment. Wait inside your cozy cocoon until you have gathered your strength and your resolve to go forward. Here is a poetic suggestion for you:

                                                “Stay down; until you feel sound.”

Once your storm has passed over, peek out.  You will see the sun sitting there waiting for you to come out and dance to those new, harmonious tunes.  Now, that is being resilient!

Lynn M.                                                                                                         September 14, 2019

A Wider Lens!

 

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I recently read The Mill on the Floss by George Eliot.  I had thoroughly enjoyed Silas Marner years earlier and wanted to read another work by her.  Mary Ann Evans used George Eliot as both a disguise and pen name.  This gave her a better chance of being taken seriously as an author in the mid-1800’s.

The book is filled with shards of wisdom, but this one quote stuck with me.  It was also highlighted in my Kindle version of the novel.   It said, He, like every one of us, was imprisoned within the limits of his own nature and his education had simply glided over him, leaving a slight deposit of polish; remember that the responsibility of tolerance lies with those who have a wider vision.”  When things go awry, someone needs to have enough insight to take responsibility and help make good choices.

They could choose from this list of uplifting reminders:

  •    “You take the high road and I will take the low road.” (Loch Lomond lyrics)
  •       Be the bigger person.
  •       Turn the other cheek.
  •       Give them your cloak also.
  •       Forgive seventy times seven.
  •       Hold your peace.
  •       The more you know, the more you are responsible for.
  •       “You have to give a little, take a little. (Glory of Love lyrics)

These lyrics and aphorisms appeal to the mature ones who understand that age is just a number. The ‘mother wit’  of old souls is a  gift that has been given to those with higher visions.  They know how to move into the upper room of  thinking when faced with grave decisions. They are able to exhibit more tolerance of others as they meet life’s demands

As wise eagles, they may perch for a while and observe the disorder taking place in the valley.  After carefully assessing the situation, they can make their descent  into the fray with plans in hand. With the aperture of the lens perfectly adjusted, they succeed in making a difference while using the lightest of touches!

Lynn M.                                                                   September 7, 2019