What is resilience? Think of a time when you knew you were resilient. Did you fall apart and wonder if you could go on, yet later found yourself back in the game? A host of debaters was recently asked to share one of their resilient moments. Some answers were clear and profound while others became lost somewhere in the middle. Reliving crises can make you veer off course.
When the onslaughts of life have taken their tolls on your mind, body and soul, it is best to simply halt and retreat. If possible, take a self-prescribed reprieve from it all. You can announce your own time-out and step out of the path of the fiery darts.
You may have to hunker down and rest on your laurels for a while. The universe knows how to bring you back into alignment with the natural order of things. One sage said, “It did not get that way overnight and it possibly will not straighten out overnight.” It is a process.
So, during your down time, become still and wait. Wait until you can think clearly. Remain calm by reading, walking, sitting in the silence, listening to inspiring music and podcasts of experts who offer you hope and encouragement.
Stay busy and let the sizzle of the fires of chastisement simmer down and give them time to completely fizzle out. Wait in secure spaces while the angry birds fly overhead searching for something to devour. Yes, wait. Wait until the coast is clear.
Do your own inner work by emptying your mental vessels of anguish, bitterness and disappointment. Wait inside your cozy cocoon until you have gathered your strength and your resolve to go forward. Here is a poetic suggestion for you:
“Stay down; until you feel sound.”
Once your storm has passed over, peek out. You will see the sun sitting there waiting for you to come out and dance to those new, harmonious tunes. Now, that is being resilient!
Lynn M. September 14, 2019