We find in life that there are rarely long stretches of joy. As a result, many participants of life see themselves as being unhappy. But in reality just as joyous parties end, so must our zealous laughter.
When we see through a glass clearly, we recall glimmers of light from snippets of good moments. Good moments plus good moments add up to give us good memories. When we refer to some part of our journey with fondness, we have unconsciously minimized the dark periods. .
There were certainly some low points for they are a given. There were brief times of worry, self-doubt or some other angst, but we have somehow pushed them to the back of our minds. We, in turn have allowed the good moments to flourish forth. That could only mean that the good outweighed the bad and we have labeled that period in our lives as a good time.
As we continue on with our daily journeys, perhaps we will stop searching for the illusive butterfly and continually gather all of our happy moments and put them in our proverbial baskets. If by chance, when we move on from that place, that era or that time in our personal histories, we can label that experience as great or not-so-great. It all depends on our tally marks of the lights and darks that we ticked out along the way. Yet, deep down inside we know that there was indeed some rain in the backdrop of our sunny memories.
Try Cecil B. DeMille’s advise to Gloria Swanson: “Take the cream. Leave the milk!”
Lynn M. February 15, 2021