It is still early in the New Year of 2021. We still have plenty of time to plan to make this a better year. We realize that we cannot control the events surrounding us, but we can become better at choosing our reactions to things.
A former supervisor once reminded us to be ‘less reactive.’ Calm is the key and as we seek low-key responses to world events, we grow and gracefully stretch into our futures.
We could develop some I Will statements and place them around our living quarters. These could serve as daily reminders to stay positive as we jumpstart our new year. Afterall, it is not too late because it is still January!
Here are some suggestions:
- I will treat others better.
- I will be less judgmental of others’ decisions.
- I will not let other people’s choices bother me as much.
- I will lean towards a peaceful coexistence and pull away from unnecessary conflicts.
- I will try to accept instruction from others, when warranted.
Then, try pushing the pause button. We should compare what we were thinking and feeling this time last year to how we see things now. I bet there has been a drastic adjustment!
We have grown. We will continue to grow. What used to be a source of irritation is almost gone. Yes! So, we vow to forge ahead and emerge as a more undaunted, whole-souled person ready to flow through the world!
Lynn M. January 23, 2021
It’s time to take off the rose-colored glasses and see things as they are! We often refuse to clearly see and sometimes squint when the blinding lights of truth roll upon us.
Perhaps, like a stingray, the truth hurts too much. It is easier to flap down our blinders as commercial horses do and pretend that the painful affronts are simply not happening in real-time.
Our childhood brains hide and say, “How could this be?” Could anyone be this mean and dark-spirited?” Then, our second childhood self cries out the unanswerable question, “Why?”
After going through all of that, we safely remove stinger after stinger as reality slowly seeps into our cloudy glasses of water. We quietly admit that there were several red flags posted along the way though we did not want to see those traits flaring up along the journey.
After languishing a while and admitting the inevitable, we wipe our tears, stop shaking our heads and say, “Okay.” As Ray Charles said, “It is what it is.” Or, it may have been James Brown; but both men profoundly called life as each saw it.
We start pouring cleansing waters into our glasses darkly and begin walking towards the newness of life. We add a check mark by that subject matter and whisper “I get it.”
We calmly gather our things, move on and do not bother to look nor glance back. We sing a little happy tune under our breath filtered with the lyrics, “Your loss. My gain!”
“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” Maya Angelou
January 9, 2021